Yes, my son is 18 months old and I am still. What seems quite normal to me and many in my immediate environment is surprising in others. “You should breast-feed until the child is 2 years old? Is this new? “No, this is not new. This has always been good for children. But the realization in many minds is new. The WHO recommendation for breastfeeding is, moreover, specific:
This fact gives me backing in what my gut feeling tells me anyway: my big little boy still needs that. He wants, several times a day, the closeness and security that he finds quiet. Especially in the afternoon I can observe how he mutates with a few minutes at the breast of a weary, quivering something to the happy, balanced sunshine. He then lets go of the chest, looks at me and shines all over his face. Then he drinks again, shines at me, drinks … and somehow he pulls away and plays happily in our apartment or wherever we are.
Do You Have To Breast-Feed?
What about other children who were breast-fed with 6 months? Or got the bottle from the beginning? I do not know a child under 2 years, who sucks at nothing. Be it a bottle, a nipple, or a thumb. Because the suction need is still there. Children who are no longer breastfed must satisfy the situation differently. Nutmilk has the advantage of also saturating, providing a good supply with all necessary nutrients and delivering a decent portion of defenses. And, of course, the physical, physical proximity to the mother.
How Is It To Breast-Feed So Long?
All these benefits for the child are also a little to the detriment of breastfeeding mothers. Because somewhere the nutrients have to come from. So I am very busy, balanced and above all sufficient to feed, to drink enough and to have the patience to breastfeed him again and again. Partially, if he is not doing well or he is confronted with a lot of new things, he would like to have his breast every few hours. Usually not from hunger, but simply for reassurance.
In addition, I have now over 2 years to pay attention to what I eat. Because pollutants, alcohol or caffeine affect not only on unborn but also on breast-fed babies.
I could now say that this does not matter to me absolutely and me the soulful smile of my child each time compensated for it. But that would be a lie. In fact, there are moments when the quiet also annoys me. In which I envy mothers, with whom the fathers can soothe at night or comfort themselves after a bad fall. For me it is instead “breast out, mama!”.
Reduce Breastfeeding – At Night
Lately, I’ve been getting more and more of a “substitute” for the breast. Simply because I do not feel like it. And because I feel that the frequent breastfeeding eats me. I notice, for example, the next morning quite clearly when he has drunk a lot at night. I have a terrible hunger and am even tired than usual. A few months ago, I decided not to breastfeed at night.
One evening, when my will was strong enough and I knew he had eaten a lot in the evening, I simply refused my breast. My resolution: before 4 o’clock there is no milk. If, as always, he woke up every two hours and asked for it, I offered him a bottle of water, trying to console him, but not let him drink. I also told him clearly every time that there is no milk. That “the breasts need a break”. At the very latest, he was completely freaked out the first night. He roared furiously, threw himself in our bed, and tugged at my T-shirt. But it did not help. That night we both did not sleep much.
On the second night, the situation improved considerably. He woke up just as often and wanted to reach the chest, but accepted much faster and with less rage that there was nothing. He began to nibble at the bottle of water instead, and after a few minutes slept on me again.
On the third night, as I find amazingly fast, he had accepted the new situation more or less. He took the offered water bottle only occasionally, mostly wanted to fall asleep on me again. And that relatively quickly and without much gusto.
A few nights later the wonderful. He slept through or was content with holding a hand or rubbing his back when he woke up. And these nights have become ever more frequent! Of course, he sometimes wakes up before, but he knows now that there is nothing before 4 o’clock. So if he wakes up before, then he’s looking for me or wants to lie down on me, then falls asleep again.
I then, a little later, tried to abolish also the 4 o’clock meal. However, it quickly became apparent that he was really hungry. We eat around 6 pm to evening, at 7 pm he gets milk with Einalfstillen. Longer than until 4 o’clock, he probably just does not pass through.
Reduce Breastfeeding – During The Day
Even during the day, I often simply do not feel like breastfeeding so often. As I said, my child has a very strong suction. He never took the pacifier, but gradually he got used to drinking from the bottle. At the Babyworld fair in November, we got a bottle of Lansinoh for testing. Supposedly, the teat is very similar to the human nipple. In fact, the material is very stretchy and crunchy, unlike the usual baby bottles. With this bottle I tried the following: If he kept quivering at his chest at home and tugged at my T-shirt, I gave him some milk or oat milk in the bottle.
At first there were a few attempts, but now he almost always accepts this. I still like to give him the Lansinoh bottle in the hope that the sucking experience is similar to what he wants, but now he accepts other bottles as well.
It is becoming more and more frequent now that he does not try to come to the chest, but is very vehemently at the refrigerator, and “Müüh” calls. Sometimes he also takes a bottle from the cupboard to make his desire clearer. Then he drinks 200 ml. And more at once. Because I have a little bit of concern to fill my stomach several times a day with cow or cereal milk, I have now – for the first time in my life – bought a pack of pre-milk for infants. He likes drinking at least as much, and it is similar in composition to the mother’s milk.